We, the undersigned members of the Tibetan Allopathic Physicians Network have been deeply saddened by how His Holiness the Dalai Lama has recently been the subject of much controversy and misunderstanding. We feel that there has been gross misrepresentation and misunderstanding, which has led to unjustified defamation and slander.
As medical professionals, we are always mindful of the importance of safeguarding children and of our responsibilities in this regard. We understand the nature of the concerns raised. However, we also possess a broad collective knowledge of His Holiness the Dalai Lama, his ethics, teachings and significant contributions to humanity which include establishing the foundations of popularising mindfulness and developing frameworks for social, emotional and ethical learning.
In all of this, we have unwavering confidence in His Holiness the Dalai Lama and the lack of anything other than his unparalleled and sincerest of altruism towards all, regardless of age, gender, race, religion and disability. This is based on our collective and continuous years of direct and extensive observations and includes the professional contact had by Dr.Sadutshang, His Holiness’s personal physician who has worked closely with him over 35 years and observed at first-hand the Dalai Lama’s integrity, humour and playful nature. We are cognisant of his rudimentary use of the English language and know that whilst we may be familiar with how certain words, across languages can have different connotations and loaded meanings, these subtleties and nuances will not be familiar to an 87 year old celibate monk living an austere, monastic lifestyle. We are confident beyond a shadow of doubt, that there was no intent of harm, let alone that of a sexual nature.
We recognise that social displays of platonic affection may vary between world communities, however, whilst these may be perceived differently, especially when taken outside situational and cultural contexts, this does not equate to acts of harm. We recognise that culture alone is not an excuse for any risk posed to the welfare of a child, however, one must consider if any harm has taken place at all. Given the situational context, the absence of any complaints from those present on the day, the expression of a positive experience by the boy and his family after the event stands in good faith, supported by the lack of evidence of any harm experienced by the child or the family since the event. We feel that there have been serious and irreparable implications of this misunderstanding not just for His Holiness but also for the lives of the child and his family trying to reconcile the positive experience with the calumny in the media.
It has been a period of immense mental and emotional distress for millions of Tibetans and well wishers of His Holiness worldwide. We are beginning to learn of an increase of cases with disorders of mood, anxiety, insomnia and tearfulness. We hope that the affected population at large can find comfort in the tremendous effort they have made in clarifying the misunderstanding and begin to heal by drawing strength and support from each other and where needed, access psychological support. No one will challenge the importance of safeguarding children; however, the incident in question was not an act of child abuse. Nevertheless, despite this incident, our people are learning that serious misunderstandings can occur. We hope the world learns that any assessment of such situations needs to be culturally and contextually informed and that together, we continue to learn about each other’s cultural sensitivities.
Dr.Tsetan Dorji Sadutshang, MBBS, DTM&H, DTCD, MPH, FRCP
Chief Medical Officer, Delek Hospital, Dharamsala, India
Kunchok Dorjee, MBBS, PhD, MPH
Assistant Professor of Medicine and International Health
Johns Hopkins University, Baltimore, USA
Dr Dhondup Tashi
Chief Medical Officer
Gaden Jangtse Hospital, Mundgod, India
Dr.Sonam P. Kundeling MD
Vice President, Renal Medicine Associates, Albuquerque, NM, USA
Dr. Tenzin Y. Takla, MBBS, BSc, DRCOG, MRCGP
General Practice Partner and Safeguarding Lead, London, UK
Dr.Dechen Tsewang, MD
Family Physician, Santa Fe, NM, USA
5 Responses
I strongly condemn this vilification of HH The Dalai Lama. The Press and other Media must tender an Apology at the earliest.
Not to be understanding of cultural differences, and to expect every one to embrace the western slant on sociological norms and morals is a mistake. I never thought his Holiness did anything wrong from the beginning. We shouldn’t criticise that which we do not understand. We should investigate and learn ,and grow.
This is my feelings about this situation
Thank goodness there are some in this world who understand the real meaning of what it is like to be human.
Well said. I am with you 100 per cent.
His Holiness will never commit child abuse. Approach to child welfare and protection varies from cultures to culture. Parents kissing each other in front of children is deemed child abuse by Asian standards. This is because child gets an inkling of sex and lust before puberty and this distracts them from studies. Average age children lose virginity in Europe is 14 years of age.
But Asian culture is in the opposite camp. About 70% of girls lose their virginity only at age around 25 in Tibetan diaspora .Some are virgins even at 30. Children are protected from sex and pornography and parents don’t kiss each other in front of their children. Tibetan parents don’t say ” I love you ” to their children. We show ” I live you” by action and example.
Did Tibetans every say to a western culture person ” wtf , you guys are Kissing each other in front of your child. That’s child abuse. ” ? No. We accept cultural relativism, though we are uncomfortable, and feel that’s child abuse.
Concept of abuse, whether child abuse or child protection or spousal abuse, varies from culture to culture. It is time big media houses acknowledge cultures and peoples have their own way of doing and believing. Enforcing western culture on an indigenous culture is invasion and abuse of a whole culture.
Those media saying child abuse at HH Dalai Lama showing genuine affection due to Buddhist teachings from Nalanda University is abuse in itself. I think media like BBC and CNN apologize to HH Dalai lama for false allegation and perverting course of justice in the court of public opinion.
Tibetans and Buddhists, even from Buddhist Chinese who have faith in Dalai lama, are suffering from PTSD and insomnia and depression and drug and alcohol abuse because HH Dalai lama is being demonized by fake media. The video was Chinese propagation and BBC did not do proper investigation of how Xi Jinping edited the video to make fire in media to defame his Holiness.